2 wrongs can't make a right

I saw myself contributing in a little discussion that at some point I thought it wise to stop talking and just listen. I was so surprised at how confident some people could be about their ignorance and weaknesses.

This boy was so adamant on the fact that at some point it is okay to hit a girl (esp your girlfriend).
Why? 'cos it's the only way to put her in check sometimes. I couldn't hold it down anymore, I just had to interject with a resounding "hell no! That's totally wrong!!!"
And he went on to tell me of this little scenario that occured between him and his girlfriend...."
  We had an argument, after a while, I was done talking and I wanted to catch some sleep. But no she wasn't done; She kept talking and talking...and talking...until I couldn't take it anymore. I just had to remind myself that just one slap will shut her up and then I can sleep.

Ok at this point I didn't even know how to tackle that again because I know some girls can have excess strength to talk sha but one thing I did  know for sure was that no matter what, slapping her was absolutely wrong. And why was the argument even supposed to end only when he thought he was done?
So I asked him, " If you can answer sincerely, were you able to sleep after you hit her?"
And he said "no, I couldn't".

That already shortened the whole long sermon I would have adopted in a bit to make him understand that wasn't the solution at all. As a matter of fact, it was so uncalled for.
The aim was to shut her up so he could sleep, but that didn't solve the problem 'cause she ended up with screams and wailings which was even worse than the talk LOL.
The whole situation definitely escalated from something that would have gradually slowed down had it been tackled in a better way to something somewhat of a very chaotic night.

Violence doesn't solve anything. It only shows the level of your intelligence. This I can boldly tell 'cause the older I get, the more I realize I'm better at managing the tendency of me wanting to just scream so loudly at someone that just really provoked me.
Well, well I know all those arguments and 'what have yous'. I can even tell it if you just enjoy hearing it. Predominantly, men are said to be stronger than women and ladies just tend to have this innate ability of being very provocative :) 
Well, I didn't coin it, it's just the general myth. But the truth still remains that, it doesn't matter who is provoking who, taking to violence is never the best remedy. It's like trying to use some gasoline to quench a burning flame. 


There is no excuse to hitting her so don't even say I couldn't stand it anymore. 
Yes you could, if only you had updated your vocabulary with the word "self restraint". And I'll tell you that the mere reason you had that thought in the first place was only because you knew you could hit her and get away with it. If you knew you couldn't, you wouldn't.  If you were looking at 'the rock' for instance, no matter how much he provoked you, you'd think of other ways to resolve your conflict rather than take to violence. 
No matter how much your father provokes you, you won't hit him, would you? Why then is it so comfortable for you not to apply that same principle to every body you meet?

Well I had to learn this the hard way. When we were very little, my younger sister was very troublesome. Annoying attention seeker to the fullest. Thank God for something called -growth and maturity. Phew!!!
She would push you so much that you just want to grab her head and hit it on the wall so you can have a 'lil breather...Why?.. just because you believed you could do it. 
Of course if you'd manage to put your anger to check until my dad returned, then you would have accomplished a whole lot. Trust me, she was never tired. My dad always promised to punish her only if you didn't try to take laws into your own hands ..and yea sometimes, she overdid it so much that my dad had to make her pay dearly for it. But what happens if at some point you couldn't hold on till dad returns? Best believe that girl will have her best laugh when my dad used you to reinforce that simple message
Never try to use out your power on your subordinates...
*Sigh* After a while I learnt it and I can even tell others about it, Anger never solves anything. 


When you think you're over reacting, that's when you need to calm down and think of the many other possibilities of how to handle the same situation.

This isn't just about hitting girls, this is applicable to living with people in general and even animals. If some people took a second to think like this, tell me how it would  have been possible for them to hastily decide that killing the innocent youth corpers just because they were the electoral officers could solve the problems in Nigeria? Tell me how they could have decided that burning down the churches, the mosques and people's homes was the best line of action in salvaging whatever situation they thought they had to handle?

My heart still goes out to those innocent lives that were lost during that post election violence.
May their souls continue to rest in peace. I heard the government tried to compensate their families. But tell me how money can ever make up for those lost lives?
I just don't know why this has become so hard for people to comprehend. Violence never solves anything, it only worsens them.

Message of the day: Learn to shun violence at every given point in time and try to embrace peace as much as possible! Yes indeed, there are better ways of doing things. Can you always bear that in mind?

Enjoy your June