I saw a few pictures of tattoos gone wrong. Spelling errors that got me wondering, "Was the tattoo artist drunk or sth?" Well no need to wonder what I thought of the tattoo bearer... yea, either he/she is dumb or just recovered from psychosis.
I watched a video of a girl that regretted having her tattoos a few years after she got them. What was her reason? "I was just being a very crazy teenager, now that I'm grown, I think that was the worst mistake I made as a child".
Yea I sit down and feel like I made some mistakes as a child myself but thank God mine weren't permanent...like a long lasting reminder of how stupid you were when you actually thought that you were indeed brave.
Well I still think it's not wise to let children make decisions for themselves. No matter how much sometimes children like to feel like they are really matured(even when they are not), age has a significant role to play in maturity. It's called development, as you get older, you see your fingers growing longer, there are also some certain changes that are occurring within you that you may not be able to see. I know we like to encourage young children to try to be independent these days, more often than not, the reason is because we are just scared that they may scream "I'm old enough to make decisions for myself" one day. Nevertheless, I'm so happy that I had people that I could listen to, people that would tell me the truth about things my small mind couldn't comprehend then. I know now I've got you thinking that I probably would have covered my face up with 56 stars (Remember her? click here ) or maybe I would have been a Lil Wayne look alike...yea maybe!...
Yea I sit down and feel like I made some mistakes as a child myself but thank God mine weren't permanent...like a long lasting reminder of how stupid you were when you actually thought that you were indeed brave.
Well I still think it's not wise to let children make decisions for themselves. No matter how much sometimes children like to feel like they are really matured(even when they are not), age has a significant role to play in maturity. It's called development, as you get older, you see your fingers growing longer, there are also some certain changes that are occurring within you that you may not be able to see. I know we like to encourage young children to try to be independent these days, more often than not, the reason is because we are just scared that they may scream "I'm old enough to make decisions for myself" one day. Nevertheless, I'm so happy that I had people that I could listen to, people that would tell me the truth about things my small mind couldn't comprehend then. I know now I've got you thinking that I probably would have covered my face up with 56 stars (Remember her? click here ) or maybe I would have been a Lil Wayne look alike...yea maybe!...
even though this might seem like I'm indeed talking about tattoos, but really I'm not.
-With a messed up tattoo, people will always look at you and go "what was she thinking?" Totally same with marriage, if you make the wrong choices.
I'm talking about marriage!
Desperate people rushing to tie the knots. There's no need for me to say people because we all know when I mean people I mean girls mainly. It's like they are in a market, trying to sell something, searching diligently to find who will buy, just so they don't return with them. Well you might think guys are not searching for wives too, well indeed they are!!! Girls if you didn't know, know thee now! Everybody wants something good, so while you think that you're the only one that is in dire need of something to hold on to, why don't you give yourself some pride and tell yourself that there's someone that might be looking for you too. Oh no I hate to talk about relationships, marriage and stuffs cos I always find myself being so controversial that more often than not, the aftermath is always me pondering on whether I'm really abnormal as they always argue. Well, we all know in this "little market" the guys are more advantaged since a girl has these clocks ticking for her....biological clock, social clocks etc... but seriously I don't believe in you stuffing down everything and hopping on anyone that beckons just cos you don't want that clock to tick by.
Desperate people rushing to tie the knots. There's no need for me to say people because we all know when I mean people I mean girls mainly. It's like they are in a market, trying to sell something, searching diligently to find who will buy, just so they don't return with them. Well you might think guys are not searching for wives too, well indeed they are!!! Girls if you didn't know, know thee now! Everybody wants something good, so while you think that you're the only one that is in dire need of something to hold on to, why don't you give yourself some pride and tell yourself that there's someone that might be looking for you too. Oh no I hate to talk about relationships, marriage and stuffs cos I always find myself being so controversial that more often than not, the aftermath is always me pondering on whether I'm really abnormal as they always argue. Well, we all know in this "little market" the guys are more advantaged since a girl has these clocks ticking for her....biological clock, social clocks etc... but seriously I don't believe in you stuffing down everything and hopping on anyone that beckons just cos you don't want that clock to tick by.
Immediately when I finished high school and during my first year at the university, a few of my classmates were already inviting me for their weddings...well I was what? 15/16 as at then. Anyway I started school very early so maybe I could understand this, maybe they were not as young as I was but seriously, the highest they would have been would be what? 20.
Lets take 20 for instance, you've only lived 20 years of your life, if you are supposed to live for a 100 years(tentatively), then understand that you'll be spending 80 long years with this person, now that's something you want to be careful with.
Think about it, within these 20 years, were there days you thought were too long and boring? Some moments that were so unbearable that you wanted to either fast forward or even rewind? well that was only one fifth of your life that you lived right there!!! If you ask me, I'll say I had them too. There were times when my parents pissed me off so much that I was like thank God it's just the holidays, school will soon be resuming and I'll zoom away for another couple of months.
Lets take 20 for instance, you've only lived 20 years of your life, if you are supposed to live for a 100 years(tentatively), then understand that you'll be spending 80 long years with this person, now that's something you want to be careful with.
Think about it, within these 20 years, were there days you thought were too long and boring? Some moments that were so unbearable that you wanted to either fast forward or even rewind? well that was only one fifth of your life that you lived right there!!! If you ask me, I'll say I had them too. There were times when my parents pissed me off so much that I was like thank God it's just the holidays, school will soon be resuming and I'll zoom away for another couple of months.
No love, just incase you asked, there's no zooming away in marriage.
Now if you ask me I'll say that there's no need to pretend to be who you know you can't be just because you want in. Will you be able to pretend forever? When you are in, you are in...Ask married couples and they'll explain this better. Since marriage is something that your parents cannot decide for you, I think it's better you try to make it when you think your mind is mature enough to handle it. I'm just wondering the kind of guy I would have chosen at the age of 18! Perhaps some snorty nose alcoholic with the trouser sagged down to the knees and I would have gone like oh so "hippy and trendy",#typical teen thoughts... then I wake up some other day and be like "can you drag those rags you call trousers up, please"?
Now if you ask me I'll say that there's no need to pretend to be who you know you can't be just because you want in. Will you be able to pretend forever? When you are in, you are in...Ask married couples and they'll explain this better. Since marriage is something that your parents cannot decide for you, I think it's better you try to make it when you think your mind is mature enough to handle it. I'm just wondering the kind of guy I would have chosen at the age of 18! Perhaps some snorty nose alcoholic with the trouser sagged down to the knees and I would have gone like oh so "hippy and trendy",#typical teen thoughts... then I wake up some other day and be like "can you drag those rags you call trousers up, please"?
Well back to our inspirational tattoo story. I have this funny tendency of drawing my inspiration from things that usually do not instantly co-relate. I'll break the marriage part down cos I have a feeling it was easier for you to follow with the tattoo.
-With a messed up tattoo, people will always look at you and go "what was she thinking?" Totally same with marriage, if you make the wrong choices.
-Nobody will remember the tattoo artist (well at least he's not the one wearing it), so don't go, we were match made or it was my parent's decision...sweetheart, you're going to be the one bearing Mrs whosoever so your parents do not really count afterwards. Bottomline is you can't blame it on anyone, you'll be the one to live with it.
-When you're tired of your tattoo and think it's time to get it off, consider that there'll be more pains and you'll need to spend more money than you did while getting it. Think it's not the same with marriage? Visit a court when they are handling a divorce case and you'll be well convinced that it is.
-The most you can do to get your tattoo off would be a laser treatment, which doesn't completely clear it. Everybody will look at your hand for instance, and know that you once had a tattoo there...When you eventually need to get rid of your marriage, your marital status can never go back to "single" but it'll be "divorced". People will always ask, "so what happened?" What will be your reply? At least I think it's important to worry about that person that people will always call your ex husband forever even if you are sure you'd get a divorce if it wasn't good.
Don't you think so too? Will you always look at him and think "yea once in my life I was stupid"?
Well guys are not left out on these, even though it's more common for ladies to want to rush into marriages, a lot of guys also think it's an easy way out for them. They wake up in the morning, they try to clean their house or set a meal, and they encounter certain difficulties, you hear them "I think it's time to settle down". Their friends do not help either "oh boy abeg find woman where go dey help you with all these things". Is that all you really want? A cook? A maid? If that's all you want, I'm sure you'll save yourself so much trouble if you just hire those.
When you hear guys talk about what they want in their wives, you'll be so surprised at how it is everything that they can't be. "Cares for me, takes care of the home, boss at work, but still combines all those house wife duties perfectly, independent but very submissive...."
Don't you think so too? Will you always look at him and think "yea once in my life I was stupid"?
Someone once said that most girls were gold diggers, another one countered and said that the diamond diggers outnumbered those digging for gold these days. This got me laughing and analyzing. The rise in desperate girls is so amazing that sometimes I wonder whether there's a special school they go to learn something I'm yet to be aware of or somewhere that clears their mind of things that they should really care about. (The diamond here signifies wedding bands and engagement rings).
Well guys are not left out on these, even though it's more common for ladies to want to rush into marriages, a lot of guys also think it's an easy way out for them. They wake up in the morning, they try to clean their house or set a meal, and they encounter certain difficulties, you hear them "I think it's time to settle down". Their friends do not help either "oh boy abeg find woman where go dey help you with all these things". Is that all you really want? A cook? A maid? If that's all you want, I'm sure you'll save yourself so much trouble if you just hire those.
When you hear guys talk about what they want in their wives, you'll be so surprised at how it is everything that they can't be. "Cares for me, takes care of the home, boss at work, but still combines all those house wife duties perfectly, independent but very submissive...."
I do not believe in divorce, I so believe in.."as you lay your bed...", no wonder the topic of marriage raises my intelligence quotient. No offence to divorced people out there. By all means, if it boils down to that, then do it. I'm not saying it's a taboo, I'm just saying that at the rate it's occurring these days it just shows that people do not spend time to think about their choices.
So dear diamond diggers...when you chase the diamond, remember that it's important to think whether the diamond will be worth wearing forever, not how expensive and attractive, but to whom you're wearing it for.
Goodluck!!!
Goodluck!!!
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