Kick the loads off

For this "new month's" post, I'll be dedicating it to a good cause.
It's for people trying to fight excess weight.

But before that, I want to say welcome to sunny days Yes!!!  (except for some drops of rain a few now and then, trying  to mess up the whole fun)

You'll agree with me that one thing that is common with the summer is people trying to show off their six packs and well toned body on a nice skimpy outfit. You don't blame them, when it gets too hot, you just want to rip off everything and just go bare LOL!!!
During the winter, I try to add as much weight as I can but during the summer I don't bother so much tho. Wanna know why?--- Apparently, cold has not dealt with your skinny ass before :)
Well seriously, the fat helps a lot with heat combustion.
That notwithstanding, there's nothing as repelling as fat layers spilling out of your dress, so please if you still have those lil muffin tops(fats around your abdominal area), you might want to still leave some heavy clothes on no matter how hot it may be until you can get rid of them :)

Apart from trying to go cool and trendy, lets look at the dangers of being overweight to health.

It has been known to be the predominant risk factor for several disease conditions which include:
-Hypertension - Increase in blood pressure
-Dyslipidemia - Disorders of lipid metabolism in the blood
- Cardiovascular diseases- Diseases affecting the heart and blood vessels
-Osteoarthritis - Degenerative disease of the joints of the body
-Respiratory diseases
-Diabetes melitus (type 2)
-Stroke
-Gall bladder diseases
-Sleep disturbances
                                 .....................!


If Jennifer Hudson could transform from this

to this

There's nothing impossible sweetheart, you too can do it...

Most of the things you need are those you can find right within you. If you would just search a little deeper, I'm sure you can find 'em. You'll need diligence, perseverance, hard-work, zeal, creativity....

And....of course I know you'll need some motivation too, so I'm sending some your way already

This video is a simple illustration of how you can use dancing to attain your goal of staying fit and healthy. You do not need well defined professional moves. The goal is to move your body for a considerably long period of time to effect some tension on your fat deposits which will cause them to burn out.




... Hold on, I'm not done yet with the motivation

Me in the middle of some workout ;)

And yet another one :)

Hope that helped?
Stay healthy peeps!!!




Enjoy your May!

Would you like to wear that ring?

I saw a few pictures of tattoos gone wrong. Spelling errors that got me wondering, "Was the tattoo artist drunk or sth?" Well no need to wonder what I thought of the tattoo bearer... yea, either he/she is dumb or just recovered from psychosis.

I watched a video of a girl that regretted having her tattoos a few years after she got them. What was her reason? "I was just being a very crazy teenager, now that I'm grown, I think that was the worst mistake I made as a child".


Yea I sit down and feel like I made some mistakes as a child myself but thank God mine weren't permanent...like a long lasting reminder of how stupid you were when you actually thought that you were indeed brave.
Well I still think it's not wise to let children make decisions for themselves. No matter how much sometimes children like to feel like they are really matured(even when they are not), age has a significant role to play in maturity. It's called development, as you get older, you see your fingers growing longer, there are also some certain changes that are occurring within you that you may not be able to see. I know we like to encourage young children to try to be independent these days, more often than not, the reason is because we are just scared that they may scream "I'm old enough to make decisions for myself" one day. Nevertheless, I'm so happy that I had people that I could listen to, people that would tell me the truth about things my small mind couldn't comprehend then. I know now I've got you thinking that I probably would have covered my face up with 56 stars  (Remember her? click here ) or maybe I would have been a Lil Wayne look alike...yea maybe!... 

 even though this might seem like I'm indeed talking about tattoos, but really I'm not.

I'm  talking about marriage!
Desperate people rushing to tie the knots. There's no need for me to say people because we all know when I mean people I mean girls mainly. It's like they are in a market, trying to sell something, searching diligently to find who will buy, just so they don't return with them. Well you might think guys are not searching for wives too, well indeed they are!!! Girls if you didn't know, know thee now! Everybody wants something good, so while you think that you're the only one that is in dire need of something to hold on to, why don't you give yourself some pride and tell yourself that there's someone that might be looking for you too. Oh no I hate to talk about relationships, marriage and stuffs cos I always find myself being so controversial that more often than not, the aftermath is always me pondering on whether I'm really abnormal as they always argue. Well, we all know in this "little market" the guys are more advantaged since a girl has these clocks ticking for her....biological clock, social clocks etc... but seriously I don't believe in you stuffing down everything and hopping on anyone that beckons just cos you don't want that clock to tick by.

Immediately when I finished high school and during my first year at the university, a few of my classmates were already inviting me for their weddings...well I was what? 15/16 as at then. Anyway I started school very early so maybe I could understand this, maybe they were not as young as I was but seriously, the highest they would have been would be what? 20.
Lets take 20 for instance, you've only lived 20 years of your life, if you are supposed to live for a 100 years(tentatively), then understand that you'll be spending 80 long years with this person, now that's something you want to be careful with.
Think about it, within these 20 years, were there days you thought were too long and boring? Some moments that were so unbearable that you wanted to either fast forward or even rewind? well that was only one fifth of your life that you lived right there!!! If you ask me, I'll say I had them too. There were times when my parents pissed me off so much that I was like thank God it's just the holidays, school will soon be resuming and I'll zoom away for another couple of months. 

No love, just incase you asked, there's no zooming away in marriage.
Now if you ask me I'll say that there's no need to pretend to be who you know you can't be just because you want in. Will you be able to pretend forever? When you are in, you are in...Ask married couples and they'll explain this better. Since marriage is something that your parents cannot decide for you, I think it's better you try to make it when you think your mind is mature enough to handle it. I'm just wondering the kind of guy I would have chosen at the age of 18! Perhaps some snorty nose alcoholic with the trouser sagged down to the knees and I would have gone like oh so "hippy and trendy",#typical teen thoughts... then I wake up some other day and be like "can you drag those rags you call trousers up, please"?

Well back to our inspirational tattoo story. I have this funny tendency of drawing my inspiration from things that usually do not instantly co-relate. I'll break the marriage part down cos I have a feeling it was easier for you to follow with the tattoo. 

-With a messed up tattoo, people will always look at you and go "what was she thinking?" Totally same with marriage, if you make the wrong choices.

-Nobody will remember the tattoo artist (well at least he's not the one wearing it), so don't go, we were match made or it was my parent's decision...sweetheart, you're going to be the one bearing Mrs whosoever so your parents do not really count afterwards. Bottomline is you can't blame it on anyone, you'll be the one to live with it.

-When you're tired of your tattoo and think it's time to get it off, consider that there'll be more pains and you'll need to spend more money than you did while getting it. Think it's not the same with marriage? Visit a court when they are handling a divorce case and you'll be well convinced that it is. 

-The most you can do to get your tattoo off would be a laser treatment, which doesn't completely clear it. Everybody will look at your hand for instance, and know that you once had a tattoo there...When you eventually need to get rid of your marriage, your marital status can never go back to "single" but it'll be "divorced". People will always ask, "so what happened?" What will be your reply?  At least I think it's important to worry about that person that people will always call your ex husband forever even if you are sure you'd get a divorce if it wasn't good.
Don't you think so too? Will you always look at him and think "yea once in my life I was stupid"?

Someone once said that most girls were gold diggers, another one countered and said that the diamond diggers outnumbered those digging for gold these days. This got me laughing and analyzing. The rise in desperate girls is so amazing that sometimes I wonder whether there's a special school they go to learn something I'm yet to be aware of or somewhere that clears their mind of things that they should really care about. (The diamond here signifies wedding bands and engagement rings).

Well guys are not left out on these, even though it's more common for ladies to want to rush into marriages, a lot of guys also think it's an easy way out for them. They wake up in the morning, they try to clean their house or set a meal, and they encounter certain difficulties, you hear them "I think it's time to settle down". Their friends do not help either "oh boy abeg find woman where go dey help you with all these things". Is that all you really want? A cook? A maid? If that's all you want, I'm sure you'll save yourself so much trouble if you just hire those.
When you hear guys talk about what they want in their wives, you'll be so surprised at how it is everything that they can't be. "Cares for me, takes care of the home, boss at work, but still combines all those house wife duties perfectly, independent but very submissive...."

I do not believe in divorce, I so believe in.."as you lay your bed...", no wonder the topic of marriage raises my intelligence quotient. No offence to divorced people out there. By all means, if it boils down to that, then do it. I'm not saying it's a taboo, I'm just saying that at the rate it's occurring these days it just shows that people do not spend time to think about their choices.

So dear diamond diggers...when you chase the diamond, remember that it's important to think whether the diamond will be worth wearing forever, not how expensive and attractive, but to whom you're wearing it for.


Goodluck!!!

Speak to yourself....

Happy New Month everyone.
I've been a little reluctant with posting something here today. Anyway, I had to just break out of it and try to come around. I know there's someone out there waiting for my "happy new month post", well here it is :)


I was trying to think of something to put up here, but my mind has just been so preoccupied with other things that it failed to come up with some good inspiration. Anyway, I posted something today on my twitter page, I said "Speak to yourself, it listens..." While I was still thinking of what to write, I thought, why don't I just elaborate on this??

So here we go:
Have you ever looked at yourself and wondered what people thought about you? How people really see you?
Most times, it's much more than your dress, your hair or even your skin.
It's about what's underneath everything.
I tell you, people will only see you the way you choose to see your self.
And that reminds me of that old adage that says " Treat yourself good, it gives people a definition on how to treat you"
If you see yourself as useless, and you just choose to walk around with a grumpy kinda look, sooner than later, people are going to start seeing you exactly that way.

Majority of the people in this world are those that are best at bringing others down, in their attempt to make themselves look better. Please, for your sake, do not allow anybody make you accept their definition for your life. If they are callous enough to define you to what suits them, then there's really little you can do to help them. That's their ignorance not yours but at least do not believe them.

Do not stay mute! Tell yourself :
You're amazing
You're beautiful
You're the best
This I think is rather easy.
Leonard Cohen said, "Act the way you'd like to be, and soon you'll be the way you act"

Be the best you can possibly be guys, and never let anyone try to make you feel lowly
HAPPY MARCH 2011

What are you grateful for?

Aww! I can't believe December is here already!
I woke up to a very lazy start today.
Thank God I had a day off from my clinical practice today, at least I could spend some more time on my bed. Just laying there staring into the ceilings, thinking of all the things I have to do once I can get my butts off the bed :)
And then I heard my message tone, someone sent me a message. I checked, I had 3 other unread messages already. Too many messages for one morning!

I went ahead to check the first one, it was a 'happy new month' wish. Aww that was it! I didn't realise December was here already. Gosh how did I let that skip my mind?! I quickly whispered a prayer to God.
I looked out of my window, the whole place was covered up with snow. Very beautiful scenery, amazing beauty by God (even though I was happy that I didn't have to step out early today)

Later on, my sister called. It wasn't just the usual calls. She had some amazing news she wanted to share with me. She just heard news about the release of her final results from school. She's been waiting for this for so long but it has just been unavoidably delayed. It was like everything had come to a stand still for her and she was just constantly depressed everytime she thought about it. She kept hoping month after month, until I and my mum asked her to stop hoping and just settle her mind for next year. At least next year was far enough for everything to be sorted out so she won't be more dissapointed than she already was.

That was indeed a great news. I was so happy! I thought about all the goodness I have enjoyed through out the year too.... my life, good friends, family....
I knew I had to give God a proper "Thank you".

I want to admonish you to take some time out to reminisce and be thankful for 2010 too. What are you grateful for? Think about your life, all the achievements, all the troubles that never came your way.
And if you think that maybe you do not have a good reason to be; maybe because you still have a lot that you want to achieve in 2010 and the year is already coming to an end, then maybe all you need is just a lil bit of hope. You still have 30 more days and it could still happen. Take my sister's case as an example.

But if you think of the fact that we are still walking on the same earth that has swallowed up a lot of people, then maybe you'd have enough reason to be thankful. Think about all the times you picked up a paper to read about some tragedy that you never experienced. If you'd just think a lil bit, just a lil bit, I'm sure you'd have several reasons to be grateful.

Happy December!

GENDER INEQUALITY

I was walking down the road one day and I was so appalled at what I saw. Two women were fighting, a man  standing by immediately jumped into the middle to separate them when he noticed it had become severe. One of the women stopped hitting the other one and concentrated now on hitting the man. He didn't try to hit back, he only tried to escape some of the heavy punches and slaps. You could see his face turn red, eyes filled with tears he was fighting so hard to hold back. As I looked on, I began to wonder why, because from all indications, he was only trying to help. Apparently, I didn't realize it was the other lady's husband and she just seized the opportunity since she couldn't do much to his wife. Oh my God, he was taking a lot of the punches and he was looking for a way to avoid them instead of hitting the lady. One slap, I thought would have fixed her senses right back in place but no, he didn't hit her. I felt so bad for him, he didn't try to come and fight for his wife, he only came to stop the fight. He didn't deserve all of that, such a gentle man! I was thinking so much of what was going through that guy's mind "maybe if I hit this lady, she'll try to hit me back, and of course I'd be blamed for fighting a lady". I was wondering, would this lady be charged for abusing this hefty man? Go to courts, how many abuse cases involve men as the victim and caused by a lady?
 Hmmn gender inequality.

I watched a programme on TV one time (BBA), one of the house-mates (a lady) started pushing another house-mate (a guy). The reason was simply because the guy told her she was drinking too much and it was so inappropriate. She pushed the guy so much that I personally thought I would have lost it if I were to find myself in that kind of situation. Amazingly, he comported himself like a perfect gentle man and didn't fight her back. Guess what happened later? the girl was punished cos it was so evident that it was her fault but surprisingly, the guy was also punished . For? damn! verbal abuse.  Of course there had to be something just so the guy could be punished too! What if the guy had lost it and laid his hands on the girl? Yes you guessed right! he would have been blamed and punished for physical abuse while the girl would have gone totally free. I even thought he would be commended for exhibiting such self control but no, he was punished somehow. The most annoying part was that both of them saved the same (I mean exact) punishment.

I decided to write about the males first 'cos I know a lot of them would see this and say "yea yea all this feminists talk again"

Bottom line is, it doesn't matter who, male or female, it just doesn't feel good when you are a victim of inequality.

I know a lot of guys are feeling like "tell them", but the truth is, you all will even agree with me that women are the ones that have to worry about gender inequality the most.
A man cheats on his wife/partner, everybody goes, "oh he's just being a man", but when a woman does same, its alarming. Why is it different? Don't they both have feelings? I just hate gender inequality!

I want to share another story, looks like there are a lot of stories to share today :)

There's this couple, the man owns an advertising agency while the wife works in a bank. A typical Friday for the wife is very stressful as its getting to weekend. They spend more time trying to balance up the accounts for the week, attending meetings to prepare for the new week and so on.
Meanwhile for the husband, the reverse is totally the case, they close early on Fridays cos its almost like weekend has started already.
The wife finally gets home late at night, sinks into a chair to get a breather. And the very loving husband goes "Sweetheart, welcome! ........,,,,..... Thank God you are finally back cos I'm starving".
According to him he prefers his wife's food to anybody's. How romantic!

Who says a man shouldn't cook sometimes? Who decided that the home front should be exclusively for the lady?

Who defined these roles? I know I have heard something like "a woman's place is in the kitchen", ok now that women are also doing various jobs like the men, what happens to the kitchen?

Its amazing! You'll even see a professional chef go home, cross his legs and expect the wife to do all the cooking. Why? Just because, its more of a woman's place to cook in the home. yea yea social roles!!!

Now this is just talking about the home. What about in the society?

I was so annoyed when I heard that for example, in the Nigerian political sphere, women had 30% of the chances. Well I'm sure the men will go "oh so thoughtful". My question is why 30? Why not just leave it open without defining any percentages for anybody? Why should anybody care if its 60% women and 40% men or the other way round? I reckon it should be all about who is suitable for the job and not about the gender.

Ok what happened when a woman was elected as the first female speaker of the House of Representatives? She was impeached in no time! Well we all know she was wrong but we know a lot of the male government executives are also guilty of the same reasons that were being stated. Maybe we'll say they have just not been caught yet right? or more like nobody needs to bother so much!
Well I wasn't surprise. I'll tell you the part that surprised me, the fact that she was elected amidst the numerous men in the first place. What were they thinking? I guess they were just carried away by winning the elections in the first place that they forgot to think as fast as the woman could. She knew how to plan and strategize immediately long before the men could(of course, thats a smart woman for you).
 I'm sure it only dawned on them a lot later that a woman was their leader. She should have been very careful knowing that she had something that seemed to be such a great disadvantage(being a woman).
Ok I'm not trying to justify her actions whatsoever, but since then, I have been waiting to hear of other culprits being reported, considering how much they all take home every time. Well maybe they know when its beyond the limits for them, hahaha! Perhaps,she wasn't playing her cards right or  it was just because she was a woman. Well I may not be so certain of that, but one thing I do know is that, it could be such a problem for even the dumbest man on earth, if he was being led by the smartest person in the whole world that was a woman.

Come to think of it, who says a woman cannot be the president of Nigeria?
Well its happening in other places.

Watch out for this generation because I'm sure a lot of people will be dazed at the changes.
This is one generation I know that is filled with a lot of motivated people.

Meanwhile if you see that woman that would be ready to take on Nigeria's plenty issues, me sef for like meet am o.
To rule Naija na beans?
Please ladies ladies don't mind me o,
 ginger! ginger! YES WE CAN  :D